Using
:
making
her
afraid
by
using
looks
,
actions
,
gestures
,
smashing
things
,
destroying
her
property
,
abusing
pets
,
displaying
weapons
.
Using
abuse
:
putting
her
down
,
making
her
feel
bad
about
herself
,
calling
her
names
,
making
her
think
she's
crazy
,
playing
mind
games
,
humiliating
her
,
making
her
feel
guilty
.
Using
isolation
:
what
she
does
,
who
she
sees
and
talks
to
,
what
she
reads
,
where
she
goes
,
limiting
her
outside
involvement
,
using
jealousy
to
justify
actions
.
Minimizing
,
denying
,
and
:
making
light
of
the
abuse
and
not
taking
her
concerns
about
it
seriously
,
saying
the
abuse
didn't
happen
,
shifting
responsibility
for
abusive
behavior
,
saying
she
caused
it
.
Using
:
making
her
feel
guilty
about
the
children
,
using
the
children
to
relay
messages
,
using
visitation
to
harass
her
,
threatening
to
take
children
away
.
Using
privilege
:
treating
her
like
a
servant
,
making
all
the
big
decisions
,
acting
like
the
"
master
of
the
castle
"
,
being
the
one
to
define
men's
and
women's
roles
.
Using
abuse
:
preventing
her
from
getting
or
keeping
a
job
,
making
her
ask
for
money
,
giving
her
an
allowance
,
taking
her
money
,
not
letting
her
know
about
or
have
access
to
family
income
.
Using
and
threats
:
making
and
/
or
carrying
out
threats
to
hurt
her
,
threatening
to
leave
her
,
to
commit
suicide
,
to
report
her
to
welfare
,
making
her
drop
charges
,
making
her
do
illegal
things
.
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